If you are an adult and there is someone in your life controlling the decisions you make and you don’t have freedom in your life, then they are obviously a controlling person. To let them have that much control is something taught to you from your childhood. It is an attachment style situation again.
Others don’t have the right to make your personal decisions. Sometimes they control to punish or to teach a lesson. Could it be possible you allow them to control you because you don’t know how to make your choices? The goal is to find the defining line between your issues and life and theirs. This can be healed and effectively learned.
Do you want to make your own choices, be in charge of your life, and live your own life to the fullest? I would hope so. Choose to help yourself today and start some sessions with me to learn how to not be controlled.