There are two levels of people with superior attitudes:
- A very insecure person that looks down on you or tries to control you in order to feel better about themself.
- Narcissism –
- Excessive preoccupation with or admiration of oneself.
- A personality disorder characterized by an exaggerated sense of self-importance, need for admiration, and lack of empathy. Also called narcissistic personality disorder.
- Pleasure derived from contemplation or admiration of one’s own body or self, considered in psychoanalytic theory to be a fixation on or a regression to an infantile stage of development.
(Taken from the free dictionary)
I have worked with clients in both of the categories above. In the narcissist category, I work with the spouse or relationships connected to the narcissist.
There are different personalities that are given to a superior attitude towards others and are too stubborn to apologize or take responsibility for their behavior or their portion of the relationship. This is the first category above. They have the capability to make amends but don’t choose to make amends because that would be lowering themselves to “your level.” The thing is, if they are treating you as less than it doesn’t have to affect you. It is their problem and life and failed relationships will teach them. I have sessions that can help you.
Living with or in a relationship to the narcissist is another matter. This takes very specific and purposeful decisions of behavior on your part to gain back the identity and self-worth your narcissistic spouse/relationship has stolen from you. You are supposed to feel significant and worthy of honor. You are allowed to have your say and at the very least your say should be taken into consideration.
Again, I can help. You can choose to heal. Call or email me today.