Intro:
Today I am going to talk about a subject that may be difficult. My desire is to encourage you in a way that will lighten your load.
When Your Adopted Child Refuses Anyone’s Help and Leaves the Nest. What to Do:
I realize not all of you have a child leaving your nest. Some of you may have children who will be leaving soon. Then some of you may have a child who suddenly left without you having a clue they were going or where they’ve gone. For those who still have children at home, it is good to prepare yourself because it will happen sooner or later.
Today, I am talking about those who have seen or will see your children go out on their own possibly whether they are ready or not. It takes a great deal of effort to stay in a good place in this situation instead of being fearful on their behalf. This is what I want to focus our discussion for today.
How Do You Stay Peaceful About Your Children Who Have Left Your Home and Weren’t Ready?
An immature RAD adopted child moving out is tough. You’ll have to purpose to stay in a specific mindset when it comes to the safety of your child. So, here are my thoughts and suggestions.
Four things to do (taken from Psalm 91 in the Bible):
- Stand in the shadow of the Almighty (Psalm 91:1). This scripture can help you to walk out all the difficulties. This Bible chapter will help you learn who God is and what He does for you and the safety of your children.
- This chapter is all about God’s power and not yours. You need His power to work for you and your children. Your power, so far, will not and hasn’t caused anything to happen.
- Being under God’s “wing” (Psalm 91:4) is comforting and God is extending the same comfort to your child.
- Believe you will see God come through with His protection and healing for all concerned.
Conclusion:
For the parents out there who’s children are leaving or have left the nest, you may be experiencing some emotional relief. You may have PTSD because of prolonged emotional stress, trauma and chaos in your home. Please remember to not burn bridges with your child if there is an opportunity for reconciliation now or in the future. Until then, having a home that isn’t in chaos from RAD symptoms will feel different. Purpose to heal and continue to turned your children over to God’s power to do what needs to be done.
Over the course of time and waiting, it is important to stay in peace when you haven’t heard from your child for a while. God knows what He is doing so ask for His protection for your child. God will see them through.
If you need some emotional healing yourself I can Help. I am a certified Life Coach and a brainspotting (BSP) practitioner. My office number is 330-953-3993. Call and set up a session today.